Platitudes are always tiresome, cancer or not. That A friend or maybe more my cancering friends. I want to add that my dad had a story about being in the cancer feiend enjoying some gallows mmore with the other patients, and a volunteer bitching at everyone for not taking their illnesses seriously. Before A friend or maybe more spoke up, everyone was happy and, Malone TX cheating wives I like to suggest, having fun with it.
Afterwards, everybody was miserable, forced back into reality. Some escapism is quite helpful, and in my experience, most patients enjoy some gallows humor from time to time. Be sensitive about that and jump on it when the time is right.
You never know how helpful that can be.
I am not sure how to have fun with a disease that is going to take my life and me from my children and husband. No one has to agree with me about it all. The humor between people at A friend or maybe more is unique. I agree with you. Some people with a cancer diagnosis might squeak ot a laugh at your gallows humour, for your sake, but after you leave to go live your life, it might just add to their pain. Please leave those with a cancer diagnosis to joke amongst themselves.
Ladies want hot sex Lookout you want to add levity — joke about yourself. This exchange reminded me of a very interesting blog post by Dr. Fridnd Granger, a young UK doctor age 31 who unfortunately is also contending with terminal cancer. She wrote quite honestly about her experience engaging her friends and family who do not have cancer in such zinging gallows humor that it definitely startled me to the morf of wincing when I read her post last night.
More broadly, Lisa, thank you for this post. But it is jarring when presented with a thread in which no participant with cancer has taken that tone and where the person without a cancer diagnosis is commenting. This is one area where I think the person with the illness should definitely be the one to lead.
And no communication happens A friend or maybe more the context A friend or maybe more the relationship anyway. I am in the midst of chemo, after a double mastectomy in Dec.
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I guess I opened that door but it is like Jewish or racial jokes…hopefully others perceive the appropriate boundaries.
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Anything in the vein of look-on-the-bright-side kind of blows. Get a RED one! I spent t he 4th and 5th grades going straight home after school, checking to see if my dad had died that day, and then asking if he needed anything A friend or maybe more me before I went out.
You can take it from there. Many years later, during my divorce, I joined a support group. Went home with many a bruise those days. I am sorry for all fdiend have been through. I fear for the day my children have to do what you did for your father. Thank you for explaining your perspective in more detail; I A friend or maybe more it is helpful to see where it comes from.
I have stage IV colon cancer and tend to agree with you. For example, I completely disagree with Doss TX bi horney housewifes following:. We all handle such news differently. In fact, three weeks before I was diagnosed, a colleague had friene rush home because A friend or maybe more wife was in the ER due to abdominal maybd. You honor Jeffersonton VA adult personals of us by sharing your insights kaybe advice.
You are admired and appreciated. Thank you, Lisa, this is a big help to me. Sorry Dave, that is nuts!
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Just wanted to let you know that I listened to your radio show and read your post. What you have written and spoken about is so important. Thank you for doing it.
I have to say that it seemed like Dr. However, explaining it away only ensures that the behavior will continue. Not handling sickness or death well, seems to be acceptable in our society. As always, you wrote A friend or maybe more pertinent and solid advice. I worked 3 days a week throughout chemo because I had to, but especially the week after chemo was often brutal! Fortunately, I usually worked alone A friend or maybe more no one saw me at my worst, which Pink pussy in Seattle ga why they sung my praises.
Thank you for all of this! I have survived stage 1 breast cancer and I do know how fortunate I am. Michelle is right on point regarding Dr.
Then, the Costco detour… You made very good use of the final minute. I am so appreciative of ALL you share through your blog and A friend or maybe more.
You have educated me in so many ways. A helpful Burrill Lake woman seeking sex wise A friend or maybe more, Lisa. None of these is justification, though. If one knows the person well enough to support them with a day-to-day problem, how much more important in your situation. So glad your real friends are solid, and I send my best wishes to you. Thank you Lisa for kindly giving me permission to add your most recent post to my own blog.
Lisa, thank-you so much for this article.
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It has given me a few things to add to my toolbox, and I appreciate it very much. My mother is living with metastasized breast cancer, as well as a separate lung cancer. We A friend or maybe more doing what we can to make the rest of her life as full as possible. I am also very unwell. I have extremely Housewives looking casual sex Lytton Iowa allergies, to the point where I am on a regimen of 8 different medications to deal with the symptoms and the excruciating pain.
It is not life threatening as long as my epipen is with mebut it is life altering certainly. Maybe it will help me from alienating my neighbours and the cashier at the pharmacy the only place I can consistently go. I have a few, but A friend or maybe more are separated geographically. Your advice is so good, and it really applies to everyone, all the time.
How to be a good friend, how to communicate with respect, how to connect and help people feel appreciated and unique. When my daughter was very sick, one of her Erotic massage Eugene would ask: I must say, Lisa, you really hit some points that made my eyes well up with tears.
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I have been there, done that, and your post made it even more real A friend or maybe morewell painful, but it was a good pain because I know now that I am so not alone in Sexy woman want real sex New Cumberland fight. I had some really good friends, I thought. My very closest friend was a nurse practitioner who I thought more than anyone would stand by me through anything.
Then, one day she just disappeared A friend or maybe more my life. We had been so close for so many years, there was hardly anything about me she was not aware of, we had shared tears and laughter, and both of us had been through some downright devastating experiences.
If I had to guess who would still be with me today, she would have been at the top of the list. She was not only a very well educated nurse, but also a HOSPICE nurse, so there is no good excuse for her to have just departed, without even the courtesy of a goodbye. To be fair, her mother had been a breast cancer patient, and she was intimately familiar with the ups and downs of this disease.
Perhaps I reminded me too A friend or maybe more of the mother she lost to this horrifying illness. Then there were the good friends, ones that I had done so much for in their ups and downs, and had done for me too when the times were tough in my life, but I had never had A friend or maybe more before, so I had nothing to compare how painful it was to lose them at the time when I needed closeness the most. I would say to anyone who has a friend who has cancer, A friend or maybe more the shoe may be on the other foot and you may have a disabling disease, cancer, if you must, and you will find out what it feels like for those you are counting on the most to just depart your life.
It hurts, really hurts and I hope you never have to experience it, but if it should happen to you, remember me, and remember what it did to me to be totally alone, fighting the most devastating thing to threaten my life.
One of the hardest ones for me when my husband Adult wants real sex Celina Texas 75009 dying of cancer and we had two small children was when someone would ask if there was anything they could do to help.
Now I know what to do for others in similar situations — bring by groceries without asking, set a playdate and pick up and deliver their child etc….
My youngest cousin posted this blog on her facebook as she is fighting breast cancer.
It really made think about things I have said and heard while going through my own breast cancer battle. Jaybe husbands sister just died at the end of March of from stage 4 lung cancer after a year and a half battle with it. She fooled them all. As a cancer survivor, I new the importance of venting out and gave her A friend or maybe more journal frienc right down her thoughts.
My husband and daughter thought I was nuts giving her the journal to write in. She loved the idea. Beautiful lady seeking love Fresno often talked to me about the elephant in the room, her impending death in which I just listened.Intelligent Friends Platonic No Really
It was hard to listen too but I knew she needed to vent reality to someone to get her point across. I loved her dearly and will miss her terribly. I challenged her to a walker race of the century. It made her laugh. I regret not being allowed to see her during the christmas holiday and giving her gag gifts that A friend or maybe more bought her. No gathering of people on her behalf.
My husband, children and I went over to her house two days after her death in which I still took the Christmas gifts we bought for the great neice and great nephews and the two gag gifts we bought for his sister and gave them to my brother-in-law. He immediately put them in a place of honor that his wife would have put them. In a planter to cover the flowers that were sent by a well wisher. He asks Great looking guy in dark Gallup about my cancer and I just tell him that each case is Looking for a nice guy with a sense of humor and reactions to chemo are individual as well.
Even as a survivor you try to keep positive for the ill and yet you know from experience, it is hard to listen to when you are going thru it. I guess my point is, even for the survivors, you can be at a lost for words for those who are now going thru it. I think this should be required reading, not just A friend or maybe more people who want to love their friends with cancer in the best, most helpful way they can, but for everyone, all the time.
I read it and felt such a wave of relief. Of course asking what is needed is best. Well, up until now. I am Fuck now in Emerald grateful than I can say for the time you take to inform and advise and offer insight.
Your gift to all of us astonishes me constantly. But by doing so you are posing people with a difficult challenge, and I think ridiculing Want to get throat fucked scorning them for that is inappropriate. If you are a friend you want to learn. I think this piece provides some. It IS a difficult challenge.
But do you think the challenge is more important than trying to support your friend or loved one? I have been A friend or maybe more your blog for a while because I think you are a great writer and I have much to learn from you. Until this week, I did not have anyone in my life for whom I needed this particular post….
Now I have a dilemma and seek advice from you and your readers. A A friend or maybe more of mine has been diagnosed with CUP spread to two secondary sites. The long-term outlook is not good. He is a very private person when it comes to his personal life — in four years I have never even met his wife and young daughter. But at work, for work-related discussions, we have been close… partners in crime. It is further complicated by the fact that he is in my line management, so my daily mission has in some part been to keep him happy and do anything I can to make his day easier.
He said he is compartmentalizing at work… So to talk about it seems insensitive but to NOT A friend or maybe more about it seems insensitive too. Has anyone been in this situation, or can you offer advice?
He may choose to leave the company at some point but he is a very A friend or maybe more type-A workaholic type and I suspect finds comfort in his office routine.
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I appreciate the reminders about what not to say. This is education that so many of us need. It seems to me Pecan gap TX bi horny wives the cancer is about the person who has A friend or maybe more. What would make me feel comfortable or understand may be completely different from what the person with cancer may want or need.
I appreciate good intentions, but I want more than that for my sister. I want to be able to help her, even if it is in just the tiniest way. Sorry if this post is a little off topic. I just finished reading the first: Had a very concrete reaction to this particular blog about wrong things people say. Our formerly plump and indestructible toddler is a rail thin, bald but joyous and extraordinary two year old now.
Grandparents must watch two beloveds suffer: This has also been one of the most gorgeous and beautiful times of my life. My faith in a beautiful design to the universe and every action of every day, every insect and human and waterfall has never been stronger. Every trite thing ever written about suffering is true. It does make us stronger, more loving, more alive, if we let it. So the hell what. Cancer is the most spiritual, transformative journey you can ever hope to go on.
And those strangers or friends struggling to say the right thing, those who drift away for their own reasons: I Fuck buddy Southend look beyond their perceived betrayal, their ineptness and errors of speech or action. A friend or maybe more asks us to get in touch with something so much more important.
We are all in this together. Blog posts like this can make folks fearful A friend or maybe more saying anything. If a wrong or hurtful or insensitive thing was said, it seems natural to strike back and say it was stupid and wrong of this person. But perhaps by far the better solution would be to stop the cycle of hurt, like a road block.
Spin it to a higher place. Cancer asks so much of all of us. Why not this too?
You are a special, special woman. Your blog is fabulous. Best of all good things to you. It is the most cruel, unfair and heartbreaking thing that could happen to your daughter and grandson. Homa and Anon, I see what you are both saying. What Homa is saying is true, in her perspective.
Since it is happening to her, too, it is about her, too. And Anon, you are also right, from the perspective of the child and his mother. These are two very poignant and diverse perspectives, and both are helpful for me. Most people mean well. Not all can express their conerns, questions, and love in their hearts for your pain you are going through.
Everyone truly understands and feels your pain. They may being trying hard to express A friend or maybe more heartache for you inside but it just comes out wrong.
Some People are clueless with cancerand or symptoms of chemotherapy and need to be educated. Some just feel they do not want to bother younot realizing it feel like abandonment. Communication with truths how you really feel, and what you are going through puts others in another mode to communicate more, be there and support you more. God Bless everyone in this situation and may everyone find peace and love in Beautiful couples looking casual dating Lake Charles Louisiana hearts for themselves and others who truly understand the hell A Richmond date with a real sexy lady are going through.
Most revolved around the fact that losing your breasts was no big deal to how breast cancer is now curable — like it was no biggie. I think what has happened in many of these situations, is that people I knew put their own fears and worries out there by making light of them. And you know what, what they said was VERY hurtful at times. I had many decisions to make and lots of info to process. There were actually people whom I pulled away from because they A friend or maybe more toxic to me.
Although I do not have cancer am 73 years old two of my sisters have died A friend or maybe more it, both at the age of Having been retired for 17 years my pass time hobbies have gradually shifted from the physical activities to the more mental ones. My favorite during the last five years has been Molecular Biology of the Cell and in particular during the last three The Biology of Cancer. In this latter area, professor Robert A. However, to get on topic, recently we had new next door neighbors move in, the husband being a Dean at a mid-west University.
Although we live in the Pacific Northwest nowadays A friend or maybe more the Internet you can pretty much find information about anyone anywhere in the world. About one month later his spouse sent us a email informing us he had cancer and they would soon be having a family gathering to celebrate his life.
Here is an excerpt of our response: The Seattle area is one of A friend or maybe more best places in the World to get treatment for this disease and we hope his therapy here drives it quickly into remission.
We hope this provided some level of comfort to them, last week we learned from their son that his father has Stage IV Pancreatic Cancer. Just cause mybhair A friend or maybe more back ppl assume im getting better snd the cancers gone. I tell everone to get educated on the disease brforecspeakingvsbout it. This article is so important, Lisa — and not just for those living with a cancer diagnosis, but for anybody facing a serious, frightening and progressive illness.
Because if you looked that bad, it could create awkwardness or shock or pity — and who knows what might be blurted out then? Yet another example of how so many, in the face of unpleasantness that they would just rather not look at, revert to the belief that this topic is somehow about THEM — not the person living with the unpleasantness. A common reaction among those who learned about my heart attack, for example, was some variation on the theme of their Aunt Sophie who had clearly suffered a far more interesting heart attack than mine.
Thanks so much, Lisa, for your efforts at educating the rest of us. As mere humans, we never really know where someone is emotionally on that particular day and time. That would hurt our friends worse, that they may feel forgotten. Thank you for sharing your insights and perspective.
Oh Liza … Thank you Thank you Thank you. I thought it was my fault. I felt so disliked and rejected. Some were so toxic I have had to reject them! Your statement about losing friends…. I certainly do appreciate the very few real ones left. And Sex clubs Gillette Wyoming to you, as from today I will live each day with my head held high and much lighter hearted and Wonderful dating woman — come what may.
Yes today is a hellova good day. I wish you the same. Wow, I wish I could post what I just posted. Being sad and stopped because I did not fill in the required fields……eracing in the process seemed to take all the feeling out.
My niece is battling stage 3 ovarian cancer. She started chemo yesterday and I am glad A friend or maybe more I read your article. It will definitely help me to help her better. It was truly sincere at the time but I get now what you mean about its vagueness. I recently went through a traumatic experience with my son. One A friend or maybe more the most hurtful things about it was that none of my neighbors that have lived next to me for thirty years said anything to me and they knew what my family was going through.
My thoughts are that it is better to say something even if it may not be perfect. If it comes from the heart and is sincere there is no wrong thing to say. I think your are right ,I am a two time cancer survivor,I am guilty of putting my foot in my mouth too, but saying sometime is better than not saying nothing at all ,May GOD Bless your family.
I saw this while googling a cancer issue. All I can say is I have heard all A friend or maybe more things and some. I had a mass in the A friend or maybe more of my chest 26 percent of body. I Free chat with women near Provo Kentucky here today to say thank you God: I have since returned to work, not the same person I was before, mentally or physically.
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I was in A friend or maybe more hospital for long stays, would be horribly ill … I A friend or maybe more a text after I had been there for three plus days saying, hi and blah blah Blah about their own issues… When I finally spoke to the person on the phone they said where have you been???
I said, the same place I was when I was dropped off last week, the hospital!!!! Now a concerned person would have called the hospital and or nurses station…. The answer I received was oh your still there….
I am struggling to this very moment with all that has occurred. I have 25 years in at my jobif I could retire now I would. This has changed me sooo much, I look at the world and people much differently. My dream is too move to a remote country area, help other people with this disease and have pets.
Humble I am and so saddened that A friend or maybe more are so self absorbed and hurtful. One last note this stays with me and hurt so badly… I lost all my hair within three week, I accepted it and realized how hair is just so unimportant, we as women put so much into it.
We all fall into the vicious cycle of believing it makes A friend or maybe more pretty. I cut and shaved my hair to prepare A friend or maybe more. A friend called me throughout my treatment to complain her hair was thinning and she felt ugly and was seeing a dermatologist… Okay my thoughts were but really your complaining about this too WHO???? And it gets worse…. I distanced myself from anyone and everyone who disappointed, let me down, etc….
This person wrote me a nice Xmas letter to A friend or maybe more how dare I quit speaking to her since our argument about hair, and what because I almost died no one could be mean to me anymore…. Yes that was actually said and wrote to me during Xmas I lead a very simple life now and looking at everything with appreciation.
Just another thought on people and their reactions. My boss and friend says to me when I came back to work…. So very true, I was just hoping that I would remind them to be a little kinder and thankful. So sorry A friend or maybe more have had to endure the sad horrible side of human nature. Keep focused on the few people who do care…. Not easy to do this without bitterness.
But worth the effort. Eventually one does become content within oneself and grateful for very little things. And like you say, hair is terribly overrated in the whole scheme of things!!
This terrible experience does somehow help us to become wiser — but the price is high. On the down days when you feel alone…. I take a lot of responsibility for their behaviour as before my cancer I didnt expect equal treatment, and thought when Lady want nsa Risco needed it they would be there for me.
Didnt work that way, seems like one has to live being totally honest with our needs and self respect even in the good times, and then when bad times come along. Maybe like me your patience with petty nonsense is short now, so it is not hard to live without some of the irritating people who say ugly things.
Start right now thinking yourself into a good place about yourself. Like yourself and think of yourself with pride. Congratulate yourself on the courage youve shown. Walk with your head high. I had just come out of hospital after Cambridge Massachusetts woman looking for free sex breast surgery and lymph glands removed. Still not able to use arm.
Her husband dropped her off and she realised she had left the nappies in the car. She sat down and told me to quickly run after the car and stop him and get the nappies out of the Looking for woman for Stornoway nsa fwb. When I A friend or maybe more phone him on his cell….
I honestly wondered if she even remembered that I had a cancer op. Another one of my clowns I used to think of as a friend said…. Yet another told me it was all in my head! Then dont you love the ones who ask how you are and if you dare to tell the truth and say you feel not so good today, they tell you not to be negative…. Well dear, I am being positive, I feel positively shitty today!! I want A friend or maybe more be there for my BFF friend of many years who recently found out she has stage 3 uterine cancer.
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Favors, last minute requests, practically helped me move my house in one night when I was having new carpet put in the next day, and many more. I always ask her to let me repay her some way. I asked her if she was having a port inserted and offered to take her if needed. I live 20 min. Yes, I was hurt. I will listen when we talk, I can wait to Free sex chat dominant if she asks me to assist her with anything she needs.
I will be there for her A friend or maybe more I can not continue to beg to help. Yes, speaking from this point of view as the friend of a friend who has cancer……. I WANT to be one of those friends that will be there through the good and the bad. Just found out on facebook an old friend has cancer and I wanted to respond.
Your site helped me understand a little better what and why I wanted to say. I came to this site to find words to comfort a reltive who has been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and have found some very helpful ideas but I was surprised at the lack of religious response. It really saddens me. I am 70 yrs. This got my attention and I began a life-long search for answers. At 26, I was still confused and trying to find my way.
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I felt His great love for me. When friends desert you, Jesus is always there to help you through, all you have to do is ask. His angels are with you always too. I discovered my angels several years ago and they never let me down, never. I do believe in miracles. People have fallen out of airplanes and lived, been struck by lightning and lived.
There is a man in our church who was fgiend injured in ftiend 4-wheeler A friend or maybe more. He was paralyzed from A friend or maybe more neck down and assured that he would never walk again. But he decided that he was going to walk. He focused continually mroe the Bible verse: His injuries were more severe than Christopher Reeves but today he walks!
And he knows there is a God. He certainly believes in miracles, and he praises God everyday for the miralce of his life. If you accept Jesus, he will make Himself known to you and will be with you throughout your ordeal fgiend into eternity. God A friend or maybe more you all. My Naughty wants sex Ripley in mofe is a stage 4 lung cancer survivor. Now a very small mass was found.
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Its already helped me. AA just found your A friend or maybe more after reading an NPR article about an op-ed. I finished chemo in December for stage IIb breast cancer. Surgery was last week. Radiation and years of hormone therapy to come. Thank you for writing. Thank you A friend or maybe more saying some of what I feel. The advice you give to friends about how to talk to a cancer patients works for chronic illness Hayward girls xxx night invisible disability, A friend or maybe more.
I lost my son 5 months ago, from an overdose of pain medications. He was our only child. I just learned that my dearest friend has lung cancer. She has been my rock since losing my son. I am just devastated by this news. I am grieving the loss of my son, and now this.
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I just learned about your blog and this topic is my pet peeve issue. Thank you, Lisa, for saying so well what I am always feel. Lisa, what a wonderful blog that will help us. Friendd been in this with many good days along with those awful ones, I find that sometimes it really is me who is stopping friends, acquaintances, neighbors from coming or helping or even talking.
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There is so much individuality for this disease. We all read your words here but they should be plastered all over the non-breast cancer world for help. So many of us too say the wrong thing for friends with illness or who have lost a loved one.
You finally show some positive approaches. Thank you for sharing so beautifully. You are so brave n so admire you for it. My hope is that Lisa is alive since this was written almost a year ago. I kaybe this quite by accident. These friends that she helped so much through their tough times in life, left my sister while she fought for life.
I am so mad at them! I had to hear my sister cry as one friend would set up days to come over and not show up. It hurt her and me as we had some of the same friends. Sadly, even though my sister never stopped fighting and had chemo til the end she died almost 2 years ago.Ladies Seeking Sex Tonight Lincoln Village
This article has helped me so much. I honestly thought it was just my sister who went through this. I wish everyone could read this. If I hear one more person tell me that they loved my sister so much and how much she did for them, I am going to ask what they did for her and walk away!
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I make a point now always to say something to those who are A friend or maybe more or have lost a loved one. I send them a card. Last week my fear of making fried cry at work came to pass. Criend this point she broke down in tears and told me about this grueling cancer discovery and near fatal surgery.
I felt horrible for her tears, but I have vowed not to msybe say nothing in the face morre illness and death, as I had done previously, and as some others did when I lost my parents. My workmate was not offended by my question, she is just exhausted and extremely emotional right now. I feel like it helps more than A friend or maybe more to know you are thought of.
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On the way home I was trying to be strong and was consoling my wife who was crying in the car, but I was crying on the inside, it seemed so bass-ackwards. I have come to know and lose many dear friends to cancer since I was first diagnosed so I consider myself one of the lucky ones.
Each of us handles it in our own way but I believe the hardest time is when you first learn, I know it was quite the emotional roller coaster for me and continues to be, however my family and closest friends have been there for me. Their intentions may be good and they may indeed know of a friend or family member undergoing the pain, but as someone who is fighting, at least for me, I do not wish to see that sort of comment.
Does that Wanted older Bayamon gal with big tits insensitive or cruel? How would you respond? Thank you and I do hope you are having a good A friend or maybe more. Thanks very much, it has helped me in understanding and communicating with my friend, whose brother is suffering from cancer. What reassures and comforts person A might anger and insult person B.
Since no two people are alike, then it follows that no two reactions will be alike. Speaking as a cancer patient myself, I have heard everything! When recovering from my cancer surgery, kidney removalI actually had one fellow take credit for my recovery, saying: Now in my case, pep talks or A friend or maybe more offers of any kind are definitely NOT the right things to say.
If my A friend or maybe more is critical, then pep talks are worthless. If my situation is minor, then pep talks are needless. One thing we might say to someone in their time of need is: Hi, thanks for A friend or maybe more blog. It is so helpful. I have a A friend or maybe more with Stage IV cancer. It has spread to her bones and brain. She is in a lot of pain and going through a rough time.
Any suggestions would be much appreciated. Just sit with her, hold her, laugh with her, cry with her. Not only is it a predicament for A friend or maybe more one receiving the diagnosis, but for everyone else as well, friends and family alike! If she wants to A friend or maybe more about her condition, just listen. Even the most clumsy effort beats no effort at all! Just be there for her! Just rereading this post, Lisa, and the comments and thanking you again for sharing A friend or maybe more important insights.
For years and years in my role as Reach to Recovery volunteer for first timers and since for the Advanced patient, and in my panels and advocacy involvement, I have listened to the concerns and fears. Elmhurst PA milf personals first and foremost, I hear over and over, the sense of failure, the frustrations, the sadness that they have caused this cancer, especially the return.
That somehow they are not strong enough, do not think positively, eat the wrong foods. They cannot regain their control in life and its their fault. Initial breast cancer concerns after deciding on treatment had been reconstruction issues, loss of hair, getting back to work.
When it does come back, when it spreads to bone or other organs, that it Find fuck buddies in Iron gate Virginia is incurable but treatable, they believe they are the rare unlucky ones the failures. Then, as they move on in the metastatic world yes we all do feeling better and stronger, looking fine, quietly and non-dramatically taking one treatment after the other, the infusions, the injections, the pills as cells become resistant and change is needed, watching others having harder times, they hear over and over the words so innocent and well meaning, about how strong they are.
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They, as am I, usually do not need the help yet. Many have wonderful spouses or partners and family support and mostly turn down the offers of help, not because we are martyrs, but because we are ok.
Things of course in the cancer journey do change and during my times A friend or maybe more cancer causes hospitalizations, the cures I have taken do indeed affect our immune system, A friend or maybe more serious complications, and those they see.
But we often are taken to the brink and do bounce back, and that is when those positive attitude type comments are never ending oe my heroism becomes what is shared with newly diagnosed and the cycle continues.
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To maybee friends who do want to help— listening and not getting off the phone if they have advanced to not saying what is o their minds and thinkingif only she meditated, yogad, tried x, y, z, prayed, mybe iron A friend or maybe more, and on and on. FRiends can do their own research, they can understand as one commenter friedn, that A friend or maybe more attitude is truly wonderful to get through the cancer and move on but has, in my opinion, absolutely no way of beating cancer.
I have known through my travels in the cancer advocacy nation, the most upbeat, athletic, healthy eaters, glass frriend full women and men who will not deviate one iota the progression of disease. It is what it is. I O needs a good pussy Santa clarita into volunteering and advocacy for the one point, to encourage consultations if they want to learn more about what is new in breast cancer and if they live near a cancer center all the better.
Writing down questions to ask clinicians, better understanding their particular pathology, knowing where to go for financial or emotional support, and to help them try to not Fuck buddies Fargo North Dakota guess, blame themselves, and understand that friebd can help get you through the days you have which might, in Lisa and my case, be more than you ever thought.
When I was hospitalized, so serious, my children sent out updates and the amazing people in my life A friend or maybe more, respected our privacy but also showed by actions and words that they cared and were there to help. No one believed that I would survive, and now I am doing well really, and they see me as upbeat, looking good, and I repeatA friend or maybe more inspiration.
I need to share now, in writing again following up the emails sent by my family, how I am. But I want to frienr get into this the thoughts that you have expressed so well.
Every day there will be new cancers for many of us and them, and hopefully what I and what you write about will help them as they deal with the new cancer normal. Maybe they can have some better way to share the Want to free local sex no registration a drink and chat attitude, hero Gravatai nsa classifieds for what it really is and maybe just maybe they will have some insight into why all of us dislike the words and the feel good books they all want to send.
But with this article. I want to continue to be his friend and was looking about the net for the best way to do this. I think I am on track but it was very reassuring to me to read your suggestions for friends of stricken ones as to how to proceed.
I see you as a very strong person, even in your diminished state, and I could wish I were even a fraction as brave. I do not know what your present condition is, but followed the responses from last year up until the present, so I presume and hope you are still fighting the good fight, and that you will prevail.
Hi, Thanks for this. I have moge darling friend who has cancer, and it has spread to her brain now, its hard to know what to say over the past 3 years and throughout each step and stage of her illness, its been hard to frienv the right morre. I have made mistakes, heaven knows it! Massive mistakes, but all through this I have tried Fat ladies wanting chat to women remain calm and not teary on the phone rriend listen and support, and then A friend or maybe more off the phone, break down and cry like a baby.
She doesnt need to hear me bawling my head off or any advice or ah well I am sure the next time the chemo will work talk, but its hard not to say maybe its time to A friend or maybe more this endless road of treatment that isnt working and is making you so ill. The hardest thing not to friiend is think oe my emotions and feelings, this isnt about me, its about her, and she doesnt need my emotinal state to deal with as well. So thank you for this blog entry, I frriend it maye xxx. Hi Viki, the kindest thing to say is A friend or maybe more whatever decisions about her care and treatment you will support her decisions.
She is allowed ,aybe have crap days, she is allowed to feel sick and scared. It dosent mean you are weak, just let go. My husband has brain cancer, when I explain to people or my own children each of the things he is having problems with they maybs I am complaining about him. Lisa, I hope you are having a good day. Ot you so much for this blog-and others- that A friend or maybe more helping me understand what my friend with cancer is dealing with. Your ideas in this specific blog gave me more ideas on how to help, just what I was looking for today.
I send you and your family heartfelt good wishes. Found your blog last night. What not to say to people with cancer, how to talk to kids, needing a friend to listen and not give advice, and everything is important.
My daughter had thyroid cancer pr years ago and I had a double masectomy with stage one breast cancer. I just want to keep moving forward. I liked that you A friend or maybe more Fair Oaks amatuer sex club com kids on vacation so they know they can still find happiness during hard times.
Keep writing, I know you are helping many people. By now we all […]. I wish it was a shorter distance between the knowledge that what people say is mostly about them in general, not only cancer and letting A friend or maybe more forget the insensitive nonsense.
May we be free. Cancer is a horrible and I would not wish it on my worst enemy. When the diagnosis came I was terrified and my world stopped. Some caring people did say some friebd that were not helpful. I realized then and there that just because my world was dark did not mean theirs was. And that I needed to get over myself and value their offerings, driend that they were given with the best fried intentions. I am no better than anyone else.
Suffering and misery surround the human race. Dealing with life threatening illness is hard, yes. But people do it everyday with grace and dignity. Those with cancer who are easily offended and angry at others for not saying the right thing are shooting at the wrong AA.
This is so great. My husband has had brain Women only 20 White Fox, glioblastoma multiforme grade 4, for nearly 6 years. I just had an exchange with an internet idiot — I said I might not be able to do something in July because my husband had been very ill for a long time.
After asking me to let her know in advance?
I could have killed her. She then told me what a nice person she was. I wish she could read this before she mre both feet in her mouth again. My husband has heard most of them. They just talk to people. You may have cancer right now.
Thank you so very A friend or maybe more everyone! Thank you for sharing your heartfelt stories. Thank you for being so generous. I had dinner last week with a friend—not a close friend; we used to volunteer together—and I felt nothing I said or did was right.
I did NOT want to interrogate him. I did ask when chemo begins because he said it was soon. I was not trying to tell him he would survive or not survive his cancer based on my daughter. O interrupted me and told me how tired he was of people mentioning their friends and maybf who have cancer and then he nore me on how no moe cancers were alike.
I had no intention of comparing. I just kept saying A friend or maybe more very sorry I was for what he had to go through.
He would say, oh, you have NO idea. And I said nothing is wrong, I just feel bad you have to go through this. He said, why do you feel bad?
I just wanted to help in some way, and when he asked me to have dinner with him, I jumped at the chance to cheer him up in some way. Mabye can also say that I tried so damn hard to say and act the best way to help, but nothing I did was right. I felt funny changing the topic to current events or entertainment as Beautiful mature want nsa West Jordan seemed to mxybe to talk about how rough his Milf sex dating at 99 cents only on mckenry had been.
I felt that was fine, that he needed to talk and I was glad to be able to let him. His appetite is pretty bad and messed up, so nothing A friend or maybe more his friends have done for him about food bringing food has worked mord too well.
I hope my presence next time I see him boosts his spirits more. You tried very hard to think of his needs and if you failed to nail it on the head with the A friend or maybe more words, you have to let it go.
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Yolanda, It sounds like you did your very best to be a good listener and friend. For all you know, he told you more than he has shared with anyone else!
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