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I thought I did too—accepted my circumstances, considered forgiving and reconnecting with my father and his family, and a few other things— then all of a sudden, it was like a physical blockage was removed one day. I realized my attempt at accepting things was actually a kind of surpression and toxic coping mechanism looking into dissociative and depersonilzation thinking and emotional dysregulation.
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Everyday Trauma — The Nurture Foundation. Sooo, what does it mean? I had no negative events in my childhood and yoru only recalls support, love and caring events.
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The approaches outlined in The Deepest Well if I can remember correctly, sleep, nutrition, meditation, exercise, etc. I know this is a big question for an internet comment, but I feel like later-in-life treatment has been overlooked in the focus on children and trauma-informed care, which focus I applaud of course.
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