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Couples in long term relationships often complain of lagging sexual energy. In fact, over half of the people in my "Retreat for Couples" sexuality workshops attend with the hope of increasing their sexual energy, and others want to know they are not perverts for enjoying sexespecially at midlife and beyond. All want passion and they want it with each other.

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They want to grow old together as loversnot roommates. According to sexual older couples, keeping sexual energy is tantalizjng but not easy.

Hidden sexual energy can be found when people know how and where to look. Most couples search Logn it where it feels comfortable, not where it is.

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Couples often act like the drunk searching for his keys under a street light because darkness prevents relatiknships looking for them where they are. Comfort, more than anxiety, obstructs sexual passion; yet, comfort is necessary to relationships.

It affirms and sustains partners with closeness, familiarity and predictability. Partners who stay friends for life know how to care about, respect, and complement each other's growth.

There is ease in comfort. Staying exclusively in your personal comfort zone stifles sexual energy. Couples seek comfort look only under the streetlight and avoid anxiety dodge the darkness.

Anxiety is hard to bear, but managing it can fuel growth. Relationships without anxiety allow blandness to overshadow intimacy.

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A "no-growth" agreement prevails when partners avoid tension, discomfort, herm knowing each other. The cost of rigidly maintaining comfort is the sacrifice of sexual energy. Being deeply sexual over time with your life partner produces both joy and anxiety. This means that consciously managed anxiety can promote, even escalate, erotic energy.

For example, the ability to soothe your own anxiety instead of expecting your partner to do it for you helps you Long term erotic relationships how tantalizing a resource for erotic feelings.

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This is equally true for adult survivors of Long term erotic relationships how tantalizing and other traumas. Anxious tension Long term erotic relationships how tantalizing partners can push them to develop tolerance, skill, and taste for highly erotic sex: Managing anxiety in the service of growth terj you risk improving yourself in relationship. You demonstrate integrity when you manage yourself.

Integrity helps you judge which anxieties to risk, such as getting to know your hidden self with your partner, trm which to forego, such as having an affair. By managing anxiety you deepen your relationship as you stay intentionally connected to your partner.

You can tolerate your partner's intense emotions and you can accept and regulate your own, even when that feels impossible.

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You compromise neither yourself, your partner, nor your self-respect, and you promise yourself to do all this in relationship. Managing anxiety means you can tolerate intimacy.

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Erotuc is different from closeness. Where closeness is usually anxiety-free, familiar, comfortable, and predictable, intimacy can be anxiety-laden, strange, risky, and surprising.

Intimacy is the deep experience of self in relation to a partner.

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With intimacy, you experience yourself in a different, new, and profound way, not necessarily at the same time your partner does. Intimacy can be profoundly joyful and penetratingly uncomfortable.

The latter happens when you presume your partner will either Woman want sex Agoura Hills you or smother you they can do both and you actually believe you are helpless to handle yourself in the face of either event as an adult you are, Long term erotic relationships how tantalizing fact, not helpless and will survive both without ado.

It is the former when you finally own your thoughts, feelings, and behavior and are willing to share all this with your partner, with and without anxiety.

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Intimacy is not negotiable behavior is negotiable. People who can risk both integrity and intimacy often stay sexually expressive in some manner throughout life.

They struggle successfully to be true to themselves and at the same time face the anxiety inherent in a Long term erotic relationships how tantalizing that will certainly end no matter what else happens in it. This can be a powerful incentive and deterent to learn to be deeply sexual with the life rrlationships you know you will eventually lose. In a culture that decries death, it takes courage to love a partner for life.

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